Archive for Love

It’s All About You!!!

Posted in Inspired Shit, Life Shit, Personal Shit, Relationshit, Sweet Shit with tags , , , , on March 23, 2011 by canitalkmyshit

Mrs. Wilds… No Hyphen

By Phillip Wilds Jr.

The taste of you,

Still crosses my lips

The scent of you,

Embedded on my pillow

The touch of you,

Still caresses my soul

The thought of you,

engages my mind

The love for you,

Always in my heart


The Things We Do For Love

Posted in Inspired Shit, Personal Shit, Relationshit, Sweet Shit with tags , , , , , , , on April 20, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

I Want This Forever

“Forever yours…. Here I Stand”- Usher

I was sitting  going through my computer, stumbled upon a folder that said wedding.  This folder was created during the planning and execution phases of my wedding.  My best friend Obu and my bride to be(at the time) decided that it would be a good idea to have a poem on the back of the program.  I volunteered to do it, even though they were skeptical. I’m not the most poetic person, but I know I can write for the most part.  I searched for inspiration to come up with a concept. Now, one would think just getting married is concept enough.  I started listening to Usher’s album “Here I Stand”.  The title track of the same name started playing.  The last line of the chorus resonated with me.  That line served as the basis to the poem. So here’s the poem dedicated to my wife and ended up on the back of the wedding program……………………………….

To Have and To Hold
By Phillip Wilds Jr.

I sit here trying to put words together
I try to use this pen, as the instrument to profess my love
How does one describe love?
Is it a feeling, a chemical imbalance?
Battle scars from “love lost” taught lessons
Teaching one that the mind, will only do as the heart allows
The heart and soul yearn for completion
We long for our other half
The longing has ended
As she steps closer to our destiny
The march towards forever starts, with a kiss
As days turn to months
Months turn to years
Forever yours, to have and to hold

Love, Sex & Marriage

Posted in Relationshit with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 13, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

To Make Love OR Not?

A few days ago, I had picked up the kids from my in-laws after work. I was sitting there talking to Mrs. Harris during a Oprah episode. Normally, I could careless about what Oprah has to say. Her four o’clock time slot just got in the way of my cartoons growing up. As an adult, I feel she gives advice on how to raise your children and marriage that is off base. That is like me telling a pilot how to fly a plane. You can not speak or give advice on subjects that you have no first hand knowledge of. I could go on for days on reasons I detest her.

Sorry for jumping off subject, but that gets me heated. So while talking to Mrs. Harris I started to pay attention to the subject matter. It was about the lack of physical intimacy between married couples. Maybe, subconsciously being a married man I took a particular interest in this. The thing about marriage is, anyone’s story can easily become yours. So I tend to pay attention to these kinds of things. I’ll show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.

This one couple, the wife did not like kissing or being touched by her husband. That is just creepy by itself. This other couple did not have sex for two years. Amazingly neither party had cheated. ” I do not know how that can happen”, I thought to myself. Seriously who can go that long without not wanting to be with their mate. It is beautiful that both parties remained faithful during that time. Their main issue was due to conflicting work schedules. Which amazingly is a major problem with a good deal of marriages. The relationship expert on Oprah stated, ” 15% of married couple’s have sexless marriages”

Now let’s analyze my own situation for a moment. I have been married for almost two years. My wife has a job that requires her to be on call literally 24/7. My job at times requires me to work the most random schedules. Sometimes I work early in the morning or night shift that could be interrupted by a late night delay. I did not even get on the subject of having to raise two children. That itself is another fulltime job. Now, having a household with two working adults that have schedules that do not match can lead to many nights where one will just feel like sleeping. So I could see how that could delay intimacy. Maybe things are easier for couples, where one party does not work. Things also could be easier for a working couple that is childless. You have to go through your daily grind, then come home to do homework, prepare dinner, baths, and getting ready for bed. With all that to do the last thing on your mind after your done, is sex.

I basically left the door wide open for skeptics to say, ” That’s why I’m never getting married”. The most important thing is marriage is not for everyone, I do not advocate it just because it was right for me. I have been in every level of relationship, I can honestly say, marriage is nothing but a relationship. A relationship with a lot more at stake, but a relationship none the less. No different from living with someone for twenty years only to break-up. In some states it is considered a common law marriage, and your mate is still entitled to whatever is yours. Any relationship, regardless of status is a work in progress. Both sides have to be willing to put in the work to make it a successful union. That requires taking time for one another. People change over the years, so sometimes you have to take the time to get to know the person next to you. I’ll take the time out to rub her feet if she has had a hard day. She’ll make sure to stay up a little later for me to get home so we can have some alone time together. We’ll go on our dates as if it were our first. That is dedication, everything else takes care of itself.

The It Nigga Syndrome!!!!! (Part 2)

Posted in Relationshit with tags , , , , on March 9, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

This Could Be You?

Now I know what you ladies are thinking,”The asshole done lost his flipping mind!!!!” Trust, there is a method to my “maddness”. Some of the women that oppose my view are probably the main one suffering from TINS . I know the truth hurts!!!!!!!

In order to understand what TINS is, one first understand the genesis of this syndrome. Let’s take a stroll down memory lane for a moment. Place yourself in your, Junior High School mindset. Ok, now your sitting in your old class take a look around the class. Do you notice a common theme with the girls in your class people? The girls in class go for certain kinds of guys. While the normal guy is sitting there, the object of his affections is looking at the jock, the popular guy, or the bad boy. She’s looking for the boy who is “The It Nigga” in school. As they get older “The It Nigga” becomes the rappers, sports stars, drug dealers, niggas with the nice cars, etc.

I ain’t saying she a goldigger, but she ain’t messing with no broke niggas

What happens to the typical TINS suffering female is that she never outgrew her lust for the come up. “The It Nigga” is all she has her sights set on. She will not take a second look at a normal man, because she views him as boring or lame. You can stop reading if I’m wrong.

She becomes a slave to her search for him. She becomes a slave to what she put with, because of him. She becomes a slave to TINS , because she enjoys the status that comes with “The It Nigga!!!!” All the while shunning the man who could be ideal for her.

Do you know a female suffering from “The It Nigga Syndrome” ? If so, instruct her in how to get help. She has to be willing to face her own worse enemy, herself!!!!!! Back to the original question. Where have all the good men gone? The answer is simple. The good men have not gone anywhere. They just stopped looking in your direction, so you can continue your search for “The It Nigga”.

The It Nigga Syndrome!!!!!! Part 1

Posted in Relationshit with tags , , , , , on March 9, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

Suffering From This?

I have been around mostly women my entire life. I am the oldest of six children, the only boy with five younger sisters. We were all raised by a single mother. I have numerous female friends. I have worked with tons of women closely over the years. Shit, I am raising a future woman in the form of my Cookie. Even with my rich history of dealing with women, I still do not understand shit they do. That really bothers me. Though I may not understand the curious ways of the opposite sex, I am very insightful on the subject.

The current basis of my rambling stems from a conversation, I had with my “Home Girl” the other day. Also, a Face Book post added fuel to this thought process. The statement goes as follows:

Where have all the good men gone? Because, I can’t seem to find one

That is a great question. Where have all the good men gone?

Now, some females generally just have bad luck when it comes to finding the right guy. Time and time again giving their hearts away, only to end up a casualty on the “Battle Field of Love” So, they first must be acknowledged.

You have a good number of females that suffer from a well known undiagnosed medical condition. Those are females suffer from what I like to call “The It Nigga Syndrome” or T.I.N.S. for short.

A Decade Of Da Rock!!!!!!

Posted in Personal Shit, Random Shit with tags , , , , , on December 15, 2009 by canitalkmyshit

Doing 10 in Far Rockaway!!!!!!

I moved to Far Rockaway from Hollis, Queens December 10, 1999. To say moving from my comfort zone at 17 years old, is an understatement. I was leaving my friends, my immediate family, basically everything that I had came to know up to that point in my life. My thought was, “I’ll move for now and since I’m a Senior in Highschool college would soon be here, then I’m out.” The joke was on me in the long run.

Far Rockaway, reminded me of an old southern town. Everything was so far in between. Shit, they don’t call it Far Rockaway for no reason. This shit is far. Even the look of it had an “Old South” appeal to it. I found any and every reason to reject my new surroundings. This was not Hollis. This place is in the middle of no where. This place will never be my home. So I made sure that after the school week was done, I made my way back to my old neighborhood. So it remained for my first few years out here.

One weekend I decided I do not even feel like going to Hollis. So I decide I’m going to stay “home”. I came to realize that it was not as bad as I thought. I noticed it was kind of nice walking around where you did not have to worry about having to stop and hold faux conversations, because you know everyone since birth. I could move around without people all in my business. Little by little it started to feel like home. Then, I met my future wife in Brooklyn, but she happened to live out in Far Rock.

Now looking back ten years later, my “home” became my home. I’ve grown up during these last years. I’m proud of who I have become and who I am going to be. I miss those old Hollis Avenue days, but I look forward to these new memories I’m creating here. I salute you Far Rockaway. My home sweet home!!!!!!!!

“I grew up in Hollis, Queens but I became a man in Far Rockaway”
-Phillip Wilds Jr. (Can I Talk My Shit)

Broken Hearts: Venus vs Mars!!!

Posted in Music Shit, Sweet Shit with tags , , , , , , , , on December 4, 2009 by canitalkmyshit

Similar But Different!!!!!!

This is the classic battle of the sexes. John Mayer & Alicia Keys have the same subject matter of their songs but different deliveries. The basis of each is making it through the night after you have lost the one you love. That in itself is heart wrenching enough. Mr. Mayer uses a slow melodic delivery to get his messege across. While Ms. Keys takes a rare uptempo approach for hers. Now you guys can be the judge of which one you like better….

John Mayer-“Dreaming With A Broken Heart”

Alicia Keys-“Try Sleeping With A Broken Heart”