Quick thought

Posted in Random Shit on August 6, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

Unfortunately we live in a time of over indulgence, sensationalism, and just plain ole’ stupidity. The next generation sees this, only to emulate.

One day I was on a Social Networking site, I randomly come across a picture. There was a man say my father’s age. His pose in the picture? He’s throwing up gang signs. Standing next to him? A young man around my age. Guess what how he’s posing? Next to him, a young kid around one of youngest sister’s ages, down to children the ages of my own. Guess what they are doing in their pictures? There’s a point to all this. They can have better but are we showing them better?

We grow with the mantra ,”I want my children to grow up better than I did”. Materialistically speaking is what we most referred to when making that statement. For example, my mother was a single parent. I have five sisters. So that meant I could not have all the hottest items when I wanted them, because realistically she could not afford to get them for me. When she she could she laced me from head to toe. So in turn I made that proclamation.

One thing I will say about my mother, the whole time I wondered why or what I did not have, she made me see and value what I did have. The type of things a price tag can not be placed on. She was in the process of building a better person. She knew something about the world that I could not grasp at the time. Between her, my grandmother and Professor Kenneth Peay (R.I.P), I had people in my corner invested themselves in me as a person.

The point of all this rambling is we have to think more about the generation behind us. They have enough negative visuals, whether it comes from entertainment or the kid down the block, without us adults adding to it. Setting a good example does not impede on a good time.

I myself am entering a stage in my own life where my children are noticing everything I do. So now when I do things I have to think about how it affects them. Even if I did not have children there is some child watching me somewhere wondering how I and why I do things. I think we children of the 80’s are becoming more hesitant to to take on that mentor role, because that means your youth is ending. We have to get in the business of building better people.

But then again, maybe I shouldn’t act like an old man right?



Posted in Random Shit on June 4, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

This my private place. No wrong, no right. My thoughts. My heart put on display for the world to see. The zone I enter writing this blog is like no other. The life I live inspires me to share my thoughts. Everyone may not agree but fuck it. I do neglect my blogging duties a lot because it takes time to jot down a formulated thought. Especially when twitter give me a chance to speak as I think it. Also, I do not like to just post for the sake of having something posted. These are my mini masterpieces, that are very important to me. Art in literal form. Yeah its that deep. Lol. Sorry for the random thoughts.

All’s Fare in MTA & NYPD

Posted in Life Shit, Random Shit with tags , , , , , on April 12, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

The Avoidable

As I write this, a young black man is probably being handcuffed. He is most likely on his way to the precinct for something he could have avoided. To be perfectly honest I do not feel a bit of sorrow for his situation. One thing about me is I keep it 100% real, especially when I'm writing these blog posts. So, I will tell my story and let you be the judge.

I get dropped off to the Aqueduct A-Train station so I can hear home from a long night at work. I see a NYPD officer going into one of their secret room in the train station as I swipe my metrocard. I had just missed my train, so now I have to wait about 20 minutes for the next one to come. One thing I have noticed about this particular train station is since the Casino opened, Police presence has been increased. Understandably, with people leaving the casino with their new found fortunes anything could happen to them.

I'm sitting for about 5 minutes when a group of young black adults, ranging from the ages of 20-25 come into the train station. A group of 3 men and 3 women. Now you know anyone coming from a perceived good time are automatically loud, regardless of race. Same goes for this particular group. They go to buy their metrocards to pay the fare. While doing this they become increasingly obnoxious, but a none threat to anybody. Just some young people trying to have a good time.

One young man and his female companion swipe their metrocard, with the young lady going through the turnstile in front. Two people going through on one swipe. I'm thinking ,"This Cop is going to come out any minute." I kept my eye on the door. Before I could finish blinking, he rushes out to apprehend the first group of turnstile jumpers.

While this is going on, the male and female with the loudest mouths are not paying attention to their friends getting booked, repeat the same action infront of the officer. Like really!!!! How dumb can you be???? Realizing his mistake, the loudmouth tries to turn around and pay for his fare now. Of course the officer is not having that, because he already detained the dude's friends, he watched him to through also while he was in the act of detaining.

The last group goes through properly, but the loudmouth starts arguing with the cop. His argument ,"I paid twice. I should not have to give my ID" The Cop's rebuttal," Yeah you paid twice, after you had already came through and realized what was going on with your friends right in your face. You were so busy being loud you did not even notice".

Now LoudMouth is getting upset. He refuses to give his idea on the grounds of his payed twice notion. Then he decides to pull "The Race Card". It becomes almost laughable, simply because your skin color did not put you in your current predicament. Your own stupidity did.

As I left, because my train was coming the officer was about to handcuff him, due to him becoming increasingly aggressive. Now he went from a fine to possible getting arrested all for $2.25 I just thought about, "What if this was my son who did this?" What do you think my reaction would be????

Dear 20’s

Posted in Life Shit, Personal Shit with tags , , on March 9, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

Going Out With A Bang!!!!


Dear 20’s,
I realize our time together is coming to an end. I just wanted to say a few things to you before we part forever. I know your busy with those who are still under your umbrella, but please hear me out for a second. By the time you receive this letter I may have already left your side. Hopefully, I can get these thoughts to you before hand.

When we first met March 12,2002, I had no idea what you had planned for me. Truth be told, I was just excited at the chance of meeting you. I was a know it all who knew nothing about life. You knocked me on my ass right away. “My homie 19 would have never done that to me,” I thought. I did not know that was your way of preparing me for the changes that would come during our time together.

Somehow you knew it would take more than the number of my age to make me a man. I can honestly say I’m leaving you better than when we met. Just look at me. I have changed so much. It was all thanks to you.

During our time together I have gone through the most changes I could possibly go through. I met the woman who I would ultimately decide to share my life with. Now that I think of it, she was with u also. I became father. I have lost . Through everything good or bad I leave stronger. I became a man. I became an adult.

Why do things have to change? Why can’t I just stay stuck in this period with you forever? You knew better than me that our time together has to be for this period. It just feels like it all went away so fast. I’ve been blessed to enter and leave you 20’s with the same team I came to you with. Even we have all changed. Be good to my 201st Brethren while they are still with you, since I won’t be around you guys in that capacity anymore. I’ll be there to greet them at the next decades door.

This is is our last weekend together. March 12,2012, I meet the number that’s going to keep me for the next decade. It’s been fun while it lasted. We’ll see each other again. You still have my family and friends. So I’ll peek on you guys from time to time. Not to mention your going to meet my children on your own specific journeys together. Oh, but as for us we’ll link up again October 23,2028.  Until then I bid you farewell, but this weekend we’re going to do it like we used to.  In honor us!!!!!

Thanks For The Memories,

Phillip Wilds Jr.(Can I Talk My Shit?)

Most Known Unknown

Posted in Dating Shit, Funny Shit, In My Mind, Personal Shit, Random Shit, Relationshit with tags , , , on February 15, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

The Things We Don’t Say!!!!!


So with Valentine’s Day 2012 wrapped up, noticed there are a lot of unhappy women that tend to say fuck Valentine’s Day. It really should be more like ,”Fuck every relationship decision you have made until now. Most will say they do not hate it, just what it represents as an excuse*(Stop me if you have never heard that before)*. Since I’m such a helpful guy, let me put you lonely females on to some game so that next year you will not repeat the same mistakes that lead you to hate February 14th.

    Learn How To Cook:

If you do not have this issue, please disregard. If you have not acquired domestic skills, such as cooking you will never keep a man. I’m not saying take it back to the 50’s, for women to stay home, but nobody wants to eat out all the time. Also, have you never heard the saying ,” The key to a man’s heart is through his stomach?”. This has not changed. Knowing how to take care of a home does not inhibit your independence.

    No Party Rocking:

Remember that Eddie Murphy song “Party All The Time?” Ladies no man wants to date a woman who is always in the club. Occasionally is cool, but if your purpose in life is knowing what spot is jumping, especially after a certain age, the sweetie your lost. Relationships take time to develop, clubbing takes time away from that. Once again, there is nothing wrong with partying and having a good time. There is something wrong with excessive partying. If you have a young child/children, shouldn’t your ass be home? No decent man is going to respect you sacrificing being there with your children at night to go shake your ass.

    Dress for Success:

Think about getting a man like a job interview. If you don’t dress the part how can u get the job u want. They say do not judge a book by its cover, but ladies if your book has on some skimpy shit we aren’t trying to read past fucking. Also, if your on a social website and all the pictures are of you half dressed , poking your ass out, don’t be offended when the message your receive on a daily basis is, “So when we fucking?” Present yourself classier and you’ll be respected with class.

    Power of Pussy:

Value your own Vag. That’s not saying you can’t give it up, everything has a time and place. Pick the right time. Every dude you meet is not going to put worth in your Vag, especially of you do not yourself. Of course no one want to wait forever for sex, but to take that consideration for yourself, we men remember that kind of thing.

    Remember The Time:

Ladies, don’t place importance on nonsense like remember certain dates. A man is not gonna remember when you first blinked your eye at him. At the end of the day non of that stuff matters. It sweets if he or you does remember, but it is not be all and end of all of things.

    Get Past The Past:

Ladies, if you are carrying the scars of a previous relationship into a new one then your doomed to fail. Unfortunately, when you put yourself out there is a chance you can get hurt. Now, if the person you are with isn’t the one that hurt you. Why should he pay for his predecessor’s mistake? Fix yourself then get with somebody.

    Battle Worth Fighting:

Ladies, fighting is cool but pick and choose your battles. Everything isn’t worth a fight. Your job is to be his companion. Not his mother. Nobody wants to be nagged. Don’t feel a certain way and not say it. Men can’t read minds. Contrary to what you may believe.

    Act Like A Lady:

A man doesn’t want a woman that speaks worse than he does.,”Yo my nigga what’s good” Who’s going to take that kind of speech seriously? If you hold yourself to a certain standard then he will respect that, but that don’t mean you gotta be stuck up with your shit. We want someone we can take in public, that has some damn etiquette.

    Behind Closed Doors:

Never ever let anyone into your business. your relationship is your relationship. An outside entity can destroy your relationship faster than the ones in the relationship. Don’t let people in your business good or bad. Keep your shit in house.

    It Nigga Syndrome Revisted

Ladies, how do expect to have a relationship with somebody that ain’t shit morally. They seem to have it together financially, can get you into V.I.P. in the club, but treats you like shit. Start looking for a better quality of man. By better quality I’m not talking about a nigga that is just gonna trick on you. I’m talking about quality of character. Also, stop choosing dudes that only want you to come to see once the sun goes down. If he has 12 kids and don’t take care of em.. 1) why would u want a nigga like that 2) don’t get knocked up… You are not that special. Think higher of yourself. Find someone that could best for you.

Good pussy alone will never keep a man. What else of substance can you bring to the table?Ladies, finally don’t be saying you don’t care about Valentine’s day, because your a fucking liar. If you had somebody worth it to your ass would care. Follow my lead and you’ll never be lonely again ladies.

Saving Time

Posted in Inspired Shit, Life Shit, Personal Shit, Random Shit with tags , , , , , , on February 1, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

Tick Tock Tick Tock

Time changes….  It changes you… It changes the people around you…  Time can be viewed as an enemy,  stealing away precious seconds from our youth.  Wanting to stay stuck in a moment of our lives,  we hang on to things that remind us of days gone by.  While we want the wonder years to remain,  the clock keeps moving.  Waste enough time,  you will look yourself in the mirror and wonder where did it all go.  As I log in my hours on life’s clock, hopefully I continue to gain wisdom that can be passed down to my children.  Things that they can pass down to their children and so forth.  That is the key to immortality.  In the end your legacy stays on this earth long after you have parted ways with it.  How we have decided to spend our time define who we are…. Always remember, your actions can possibly outlast  any clocks TICK… TOCK…. TICK… TOCK…

Hello 2K12

Posted in Life Shit, Random Shit with tags , , , on January 3, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

Welcome To The New Year

Another year has come and gone. The year 2011 had one common theme for me. Change!!!! I experienced professional change. I experienced relationship change. I experienced personal change. My life as with anyone else’s has gone through its own set of trials and tribulations. I fall down, just so I can get right back up.

No matter how old I get, there’s always more that I can learn. That’s how you grow as a person, realizing that you do not have all the answers. As long as your searching for them, you can measure your growth that way.

This year I end my 20’s to enter my 30’s. A new decade, a new me but with a twist of the old. We can call it Phil 3.0. Maybe, Phil: Act III. My evolution as a human being, a man, a father, and husband will be on display in all of its glory. I thank God for every blessing I have and have yet to receive. I hope if I have changed over the years, the ones I love understand the person I am today. They are the building blocks of who I am also.

With this new year my new theme I’ll carry will be…. Inspiration…… I hope everyone finds theirs

“Get a dream. Hold on to it and shoot for the sky”- Dusty Rhodes