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Posted in Dating Shit, Funny Shit, In My Mind, Personal Shit, Random Shit, Relationshit with tags , , , on February 15, 2012 by canitalkmyshit

The Things We Don’t Say!!!!!

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So with Valentine’s Day 2012 wrapped up, noticed there are a lot of unhappy women that tend to say fuck Valentine’s Day. It really should be more like ,”Fuck every relationship decision you have made until now. Most will say they do not hate it, just what it represents as an excuse*(Stop me if you have never heard that before)*. Since I’m such a helpful guy, let me put you lonely females on to some game so that next year you will not repeat the same mistakes that lead you to hate February 14th.

    Learn How To Cook:

If you do not have this issue, please disregard. If you have not acquired domestic skills, such as cooking you will never keep a man. I’m not saying take it back to the 50’s, for women to stay home, but nobody wants to eat out all the time. Also, have you never heard the saying ,” The key to a man’s heart is through his stomach?”. This has not changed. Knowing how to take care of a home does not inhibit your independence.

    No Party Rocking:


Remember that Eddie Murphy song “Party All The Time?” Ladies no man wants to date a woman who is always in the club. Occasionally is cool, but if your purpose in life is knowing what spot is jumping, especially after a certain age, the sweetie your lost. Relationships take time to develop, clubbing takes time away from that. Once again, there is nothing wrong with partying and having a good time. There is something wrong with excessive partying. If you have a young child/children, shouldn’t your ass be home? No decent man is going to respect you sacrificing being there with your children at night to go shake your ass.

    Dress for Success:


Think about getting a man like a job interview. If you don’t dress the part how can u get the job u want. They say do not judge a book by its cover, but ladies if your book has on some skimpy shit we aren’t trying to read past fucking. Also, if your on a social website and all the pictures are of you half dressed , poking your ass out, don’t be offended when the message your receive on a daily basis is, “So when we fucking?” Present yourself classier and you’ll be respected with class.

    Power of Pussy:


Value your own Vag. That’s not saying you can’t give it up, everything has a time and place. Pick the right time. Every dude you meet is not going to put worth in your Vag, especially of you do not yourself. Of course no one want to wait forever for sex, but to take that consideration for yourself, we men remember that kind of thing.

    Remember The Time:


Ladies, don’t place importance on nonsense like remember certain dates. A man is not gonna remember when you first blinked your eye at him. At the end of the day non of that stuff matters. It sweets if he or you does remember, but it is not be all and end of all of things.

    Get Past The Past:


Ladies, if you are carrying the scars of a previous relationship into a new one then your doomed to fail. Unfortunately, when you put yourself out there is a chance you can get hurt. Now, if the person you are with isn’t the one that hurt you. Why should he pay for his predecessor’s mistake? Fix yourself then get with somebody.

    Battle Worth Fighting:


Ladies, fighting is cool but pick and choose your battles. Everything isn’t worth a fight. Your job is to be his companion. Not his mother. Nobody wants to be nagged. Don’t feel a certain way and not say it. Men can’t read minds. Contrary to what you may believe.

    Act Like A Lady:


A man doesn’t want a woman that speaks worse than he does.,”Yo my nigga what’s good” Who’s going to take that kind of speech seriously? If you hold yourself to a certain standard then he will respect that, but that don’t mean you gotta be stuck up with your shit. We want someone we can take in public, that has some damn etiquette.

    Behind Closed Doors:


Never ever let anyone into your business. your relationship is your relationship. An outside entity can destroy your relationship faster than the ones in the relationship. Don’t let people in your business good or bad. Keep your shit in house.

    It Nigga Syndrome Revisted


Ladies, how do expect to have a relationship with somebody that ain’t shit morally. They seem to have it together financially, can get you into V.I.P. in the club, but treats you like shit. Start looking for a better quality of man. By better quality I’m not talking about a nigga that is just gonna trick on you. I’m talking about quality of character. Also, stop choosing dudes that only want you to come to see once the sun goes down. If he has 12 kids and don’t take care of em.. 1) why would u want a nigga like that 2) don’t get knocked up… You are not that special. Think higher of yourself. Find someone that could best for you.

Good pussy alone will never keep a man. What else of substance can you bring to the table?Ladies, finally don’t be saying you don’t care about Valentine’s day, because your a fucking liar. If you had somebody worth it to your ass would care. Follow my lead and you’ll never be lonely again ladies.

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It’s All About You!!!

Posted in Inspired Shit, Life Shit, Personal Shit, Relationshit, Sweet Shit with tags , , , , on March 23, 2011 by canitalkmyshit

Mrs. Wilds… No Hyphen

By Phillip Wilds Jr.

The taste of you,

Still crosses my lips

The scent of you,

Embedded on my pillow

The touch of you,

Still caresses my soul

The thought of you,

engages my mind

The love for you,

Always in my heart

In My Mind Series: Frankie- “If I Had You”

Posted in Music Shit, Old Shit, Relationshit with tags , , , on August 14, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

What Ever You Want I’ll Be!!!!

This is one of those songs that are hot, but never seem to catch fire outside of those who like it. Released in 1997(I think), this song captured my imagination. A profession of what could be if you captured the object of your affections. A remix with Jadakiss was released a little bit later but pales in comparison to the original. Hope you guy enjoy…….

If I Had You

In My Mind Series: Christina Milian Feat. Ja Rule-“Get Away”

Posted in In My Mind, Music Shit, Relationshit with tags , , , , , , on August 10, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

Can We Get Away????

This song got lost during Ja Rule’s platinum run. Def Jam at the time was setting up Christina Milian to be the next big pop star. For some reason she never appealed to listeners. Aside for a modest hit, “Dip It Low”, she’s had a rather less then mediocre career. Ja Rule had become one of the biggest music stars during this time. His career was never recovered after 50 Cent’s rise to popularity. Say what you want about the man, but there is no denying the quality of music he put out during his run. He is now more known to this generation as the guy who’s career 50 Cent derailed as a opposed to an artist who’s music dominated the charts at one point. She is more known now for who she has been involved with (Nick Cannon, Dre from Cool & Dre, & The Dream) as opposed to her talents as a dual threat(actress & singer). I now take you back to a time when both artists showed nothing but promise with a great song.

Get Away

The Things We Do For Love

Posted in Inspired Shit, Personal Shit, Relationshit, Sweet Shit with tags , , , , , , , on April 20, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

I Want This Forever

“Forever yours…. Here I Stand”- Usher

I was sitting  going through my computer, stumbled upon a folder that said wedding.  This folder was created during the planning and execution phases of my wedding.  My best friend Obu and my bride to be(at the time) decided that it would be a good idea to have a poem on the back of the program.  I volunteered to do it, even though they were skeptical. I’m not the most poetic person, but I know I can write for the most part.  I searched for inspiration to come up with a concept. Now, one would think just getting married is concept enough.  I started listening to Usher’s album “Here I Stand”.  The title track of the same name started playing.  The last line of the chorus resonated with me.  That line served as the basis to the poem. So here’s the poem dedicated to my wife and ended up on the back of the wedding program……………………………….

To Have and To Hold
By Phillip Wilds Jr.

I sit here trying to put words together
I try to use this pen, as the instrument to profess my love
How does one describe love?
Is it a feeling, a chemical imbalance?
Battle scars from “love lost” taught lessons
Teaching one that the mind, will only do as the heart allows
The heart and soul yearn for completion
We long for our other half
The longing has ended
As she steps closer to our destiny
The march towards forever starts, with a kiss
As days turn to months
Months turn to years
Forever yours, to have and to hold

Love, Sex & Marriage

Posted in Relationshit with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 13, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

To Make Love OR Not?

A few days ago, I had picked up the kids from my in-laws after work. I was sitting there talking to Mrs. Harris during a Oprah episode. Normally, I could careless about what Oprah has to say. Her four o’clock time slot just got in the way of my cartoons growing up. As an adult, I feel she gives advice on how to raise your children and marriage that is off base. That is like me telling a pilot how to fly a plane. You can not speak or give advice on subjects that you have no first hand knowledge of. I could go on for days on reasons I detest her.

Sorry for jumping off subject, but that gets me heated. So while talking to Mrs. Harris I started to pay attention to the subject matter. It was about the lack of physical intimacy between married couples. Maybe, subconsciously being a married man I took a particular interest in this. The thing about marriage is, anyone’s story can easily become yours. So I tend to pay attention to these kinds of things. I’ll show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.

This one couple, the wife did not like kissing or being touched by her husband. That is just creepy by itself. This other couple did not have sex for two years. Amazingly neither party had cheated. ” I do not know how that can happen”, I thought to myself. Seriously who can go that long without not wanting to be with their mate. It is beautiful that both parties remained faithful during that time. Their main issue was due to conflicting work schedules. Which amazingly is a major problem with a good deal of marriages. The relationship expert on Oprah stated, ” 15% of married couple’s have sexless marriages”

Now let’s analyze my own situation for a moment. I have been married for almost two years. My wife has a job that requires her to be on call literally 24/7. My job at times requires me to work the most random schedules. Sometimes I work early in the morning or night shift that could be interrupted by a late night delay. I did not even get on the subject of having to raise two children. That itself is another fulltime job. Now, having a household with two working adults that have schedules that do not match can lead to many nights where one will just feel like sleeping. So I could see how that could delay intimacy. Maybe things are easier for couples, where one party does not work. Things also could be easier for a working couple that is childless. You have to go through your daily grind, then come home to do homework, prepare dinner, baths, and getting ready for bed. With all that to do the last thing on your mind after your done, is sex.

I basically left the door wide open for skeptics to say, ” That’s why I’m never getting married”. The most important thing is marriage is not for everyone, I do not advocate it just because it was right for me. I have been in every level of relationship, I can honestly say, marriage is nothing but a relationship. A relationship with a lot more at stake, but a relationship none the less. No different from living with someone for twenty years only to break-up. In some states it is considered a common law marriage, and your mate is still entitled to whatever is yours. Any relationship, regardless of status is a work in progress. Both sides have to be willing to put in the work to make it a successful union. That requires taking time for one another. People change over the years, so sometimes you have to take the time to get to know the person next to you. I’ll take the time out to rub her feet if she has had a hard day. She’ll make sure to stay up a little later for me to get home so we can have some alone time together. We’ll go on our dates as if it were our first. That is dedication, everything else takes care of itself.


The It Nigga Syndrome!!!!! (Part 2)

Posted in Relationshit with tags , , , , on March 9, 2010 by canitalkmyshit

This Could Be You?


Now I know what you ladies are thinking,”The asshole done lost his flipping mind!!!!” Trust, there is a method to my “maddness”. Some of the women that oppose my view are probably the main one suffering from TINS . I know the truth hurts!!!!!!!

In order to understand what TINS is, one first understand the genesis of this syndrome. Let’s take a stroll down memory lane for a moment. Place yourself in your, Junior High School mindset. Ok, now your sitting in your old class take a look around the class. Do you notice a common theme with the girls in your class people? The girls in class go for certain kinds of guys. While the normal guy is sitting there, the object of his affections is looking at the jock, the popular guy, or the bad boy. She’s looking for the boy who is “The It Nigga” in school. As they get older “The It Nigga” becomes the rappers, sports stars, drug dealers, niggas with the nice cars, etc.

I ain’t saying she a goldigger, but she ain’t messing with no broke niggas

What happens to the typical TINS suffering female is that she never outgrew her lust for the come up. “The It Nigga” is all she has her sights set on. She will not take a second look at a normal man, because she views him as boring or lame. You can stop reading if I’m wrong.

She becomes a slave to her search for him. She becomes a slave to what she put with, because of him. She becomes a slave to TINS , because she enjoys the status that comes with “The It Nigga!!!!” All the while shunning the man who could be ideal for her.

Do you know a female suffering from “The It Nigga Syndrome” ? If so, instruct her in how to get help. She has to be willing to face her own worse enemy, herself!!!!!! Back to the original question. Where have all the good men gone? The answer is simple. The good men have not gone anywhere. They just stopped looking in your direction, so you can continue your search for “The It Nigga”.